Why Start Swinging

Mar 22, 2022

Why Start Swinging

‘Wife Swapping’ is a term used to describe the practise of swapping wives. ‘Double Dating’  and  ‘Keys In A Bowl’ are terms you may of heard regarding swinging also. Swinging is known by many different names and has many distinct connotations. There are a variety of reasons why people start swinging, from soft swap to full swap, and in this article, I’ll discuss why couples swing. And I’ll explain why people started swinging in the first place. If you’re considering about embracing ‘the lifestyle,’ but aren’t sure if it’s right for you, consider why individuals start swinging.

It’s easy to imagine that swingers are sex-crazed nymphomaniacs always on the lookout for their next swinger sex fix, and while I must admit that I have a voracious appetite for sex, I don’t lust after everyone.
Many people have the mistaken impression that swinger couples will have sex with anyone. Couples, singles, orgies, bisexuals, and straight folks are all represented. Swingers will take care of everything, right?

Wrong! This is just incorrect! People begin swinging for a variety of reasons, but one of them is not to be sex-crazed maniacs.

A question I’m often asked, and I’m sure you’ve heard it as well, is:

‘What makes you swing?’ If you have sex with other people, how can you love him?’

To answer this question, you must first investigate the backdrop to the question. It’s a common misconception that sex and love are the same thing. They aren’t and never will be the same.

It is possible to have sex with someone and not love them? Sure you can I had sex with a lady on Friday night  liked her, but did not love her. So who gets my love if the individuals with whom I swing don’t?

That’s the easy part! My Stag He, and only he, is the recipient of my love, affection, and genuine closeness. I am what is known in the Lifestyle as a Vixen or Hotwife.

It takes time for love to blossom. It’s one of a kind to fall in love, to create a shared closeness, to create a private universe of trust, desire, and honesty. This ’emotional exclusivity’ is reserved for only one person: my one and only.

Everything else is just sex (swinger sex). You can and should establish a relationship, but it should be limited to a like-minded friendship. So, one reason people begin swinging is that swingers can and do easily separate love and sex, and once you realise this, you’re well on your way to being rock solid swingers! Of course, single swingers are in the same boat. I had a lot of great swinger sex while I was a unicorn, but I didn’t want to build a love attachment to anyone I met. Sure, like people and have fun with them, but that’s it.

I’ve learned that the affection I have for my partner has grown more profound, private, and specific over the years that I’ve been a swinger. Swinging allows us to form a secret strong link, which enhances our love.

Monogamy is a natural alternative to swinging.

Let us pause for a moment to consider this. What other mammals have monogamous relationships? Can you think of five? Sure, some mammals form relationships for the purpose of raising young, but for the remainder of their lives? While ignoring everything else?

Only 3–5% of the approximately 5,000 species of mammals are monogamous. There are creatures that couple bond for life, such as gibbons (whom I encountered while backpacking in India), however even they do not remain sexually exclusive… So, why, oh why, do we humans place such a high value on lifelong monogamy?

I could respond, but I believe it would stray too far from the topic, so I’ll keep it brief.

Monogamy/couple bonding creates an ideal setting for passing on genes and rearing children. You have fulfilled your responsibility as a mammal if you have chosen a mate to procreate with, formed deep relationships, and cultivated an environment that is suited for raising kids (whether you wish to or not).

Those mammalian tendencies to breed and procreate with others, on the other hand, do not go away, and you may find yourself wishing to have sex with others. This is very normal behaviour. When you add bisexuality to the mix, you’ve created a whole new world of sexual fun that begs to be explored. Is monogamy capable of providing you with the answers?

Most likely not.

Is it possible to swing? Absolutely. Swinging allows us to satisfy those impulses we all have to have sex and experience sexual closeness with others in a way that is not damaging to our chosen spouse or the life we have established together. To summarise, swinging can be a natural alternative to monogamy, which may be one of the reasons why so many individuals prefer the lifestyle.

Meeting Like-Minded People Is Critical

It surprised me to realise that we chose our friends based on how they support us rather than who they are. Are they on the same page? Do they have similar life objectives, aims, and desires? Are they pessimistic?

It’s difficult to accept, but it’s true. We surround ourselves with individuals who believe in us, validate us, and don’t pass judgement on us.

Swingers join because they want to share their desires with other people who share them. Being a part of a welcoming community is really important to us as humans. We want to be accepted, have our convictions validated, and have the opportunity to express ourselves.

Who better than other swingers to achieve this?

Swinging strengthens relationships.

Opening up your relationship to have a more personal interaction with your partner is a strange concept. This is, however, how swinging works. It’s one of the primary motivations for people to begin swinging in the first place.

Swinging stems from a place of love and trust, as well as sharing your deepest wishes and dreams with your partner. You will find yourself in a higher position once you begin to make these wants and fantasies a reality.

It becomes natural to talk about your sexual desires and cravings. Because your partner is also able to open up and share their thoughts with you, you will not feel criticised or ashamed to say what you want to do. Sharing your views lets you to debate, explore, and acknowledge your urges in a safe and caring atmosphere, and reconnecting after swinging is critical to strengthening these ties. To show how in love strong swinger couples are, all you have to do is look at them! Someone who isn’t in the lifestyle will never be able to replace the connection and understanding you build. It’s just not going to work.

Swinging is a popular way for people to explore their sexuality.

I identify as bisexual, as you may have guessed.

M is a terrific boyfriend, lover, submissive, and swinging  partner, but he is not and will never be a woman. And this lady enjoys playing with females! So, what should a female do? In the name of monogamy, hide my sexual desires and who I am?


Swinging with M allows me to explore and embrace my bisexuality.


It also works the other way around; if a guy identifies as bisexual, going on a journey together to explore that can be a fantastic experience. The ability to be open and honest about sexuality is something that should be cultivated in swinging partnerships, and it is one of the reasons why individuals begin swinging.

People swing to satisfy their fetishes and kinks.

There are no pre-written regulations that say you must do it this way or that way when it comes to having sex. If there were any regulations, I’m ashamed I didn’t follow them!

Your kinks and fetishes may include having sex or engaging in sexual behaviours with others. Swinging allows people to achieve both of these wants at the same time, which is another reason why they enjoy the lifestyle. As a result, your ties will be strengthened! Make it happen if you want to see your partner give another woman oral sex as you’re pegging him in your thigh-high boots (oops, I think I just gave you a glimpse into the inner workings of my mind)! Otherwise, it will always be a fantasy!

Why Did I Begin Swinging?

I’ve been living ‘the lifestyle’ for a few years now, and when I reflect back on how it all began, it was most definitely to satisfy my bisexual cravings. Non-monogamy grew increasingly fascinating to me as I learned more about human nature. I knew it was a lifestyle I wanted to be fully involved with after experiencing the thrill of reconnecting after swinging, as well as the compersion.

Finally, people begin swinging for a variety of various reasons. Not everyone is on the same page, and what some couples and singles like may not be the same as what you love. Some people start swinging because they want to watch their vanilla neighbours have sex, and spying on them would get them imprisoned. Observing couples having sex in the safety of a swingers party, on the other hand, is a safe and accepting environment. People prefer being observed, and you can fulfil this urge by attending swinging clubs and events where you may mingle with others who appreciate your quirks!

Some husbands enjoy seeing their wives have sex with other guys, which is easy to do in a swingers club!

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. There are no right or incorrect methods to swing, and people frequently start swinging for a variety of reasons.

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