How To Be A Hotwife
In a world of unique kinks and satisfying fetishes, one hidden sexual subculture reigns among the top. Jumping on the dark side of Twitter, scantily clad women can be seen wearing tight panties with the words, “My husband likes to watch” scribbled across their backsides. This is the world of hotwifing. If you are not familiar with the term, Dictionary.com explains it best:
“A hotwife is a married woman who has sexual relationships outside of her marriage, with the full knowledge and consent of her husband, who himself doesn’t have affairs.”
In many cases, the husband seeks out men to sleep with his wife (who may be referred to as the vixen). Next, she gets dolled up in a sexy dress and lingerie and heads off to meet the man her husband arranged to sleep with her. The husband (sometimes called the stag) may be present, but that’s not always the case. This is not to be confused with a cuckold!
Many times the hotwife goes solo and returns to her husband once the deed is done. Though, there may be a video of the activity. The male she meets is usually referred to as a bull. When the wife returns, there is generally some sort of sex between her and her husband, high off of the fact that she has just fucked another man. There are versions of hotwifing everywhere in between, but this has been my own experience. Bear in mind hotwifing can mean different things to different folks, and that’s okay, too.
Many couples have some level of interest in the hotwife genre but have no idea where to begin. Here are a few tips my husband and I have learned along the way that can help get you started:
Set the Parameters
Hotwifing can be defined and acted out in a variety of ways. While there is a general core belief that the woman will go off to sleep with a different male partner, some vary as to whether or not the husband should be there to watch. This is something you will have to decide between you and your spouse. Some questions you might want to address:
Where will the hotwifing be taking place?
Where will you find sexual partners for the hotwife?
Will both of you be involved in screening men?
What safety accommodations do you have to bear in mind?
Take the time to do the work upfront with everyone’s expectations, comfort levels, and interests. The whole point is to indulge in a sexual desire that will ultimately bring you closer, not further apart.
Play the Role
Scouring the internet for tips on how to be a hotwife, will likely produce a plethora of porn that doesn’t really properly portray the real-life version. While many of us do like to get made up in sexy bodycon dresses, red rouge, and those high heels we keep way at the back of our closet for special occasions, there are many women that don’t. Some women wear their street clothes and wait for the man to come to her at her own home. Others drive to a hotel room to meet her bull.
Being a hotwife doesn’t have to be one particular thing. If you feel sexy in yogas and flats then go with that! If you want to get dressed up like you are going to the club then do that. The entire point is for the wife to go off feeling sexually empowered and comfortable. If you are not comfortable then how are you going to feel sexy?
Look as playing a hotwife like an acting role. While the sex should be good and the needs/wants behind the act of hotwifing should be real, it is okay to pretend to be something you are not in this. In fact, that is kind of the point in it all — to fulfill a dirty little desire that most people would never act on. But remember, you and your spouse actually have the balls to go through with it.
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