If you’re new to the lifestyle and deciding how you want to play, there’s lots to discover as you explore the opportunities of fulfilling your sexual fantasies. We can’t cover everything in one blog, so in this feature we’re looking at the hotwife. What is a hotwife and is it for you – read on and find out!
Many women tell us that they regularly fantasise about other men whilst in a relationship, whether it’s a colleague, celebrity or someone in the gym. For many, these natural and healthy impulses remain just a fantasy, however for an increasing number of women in couples, their joint and consensual desire to explore these fantasies leads them into the world of being a hotwife.
What is a hotwife?
A hotwife is usually a married woman who fulfils the sexual fantasies of the couple by having multiple sexual partners – usually while the husband watches, or joins in. Don’t worry if you’re not married though, you can still be a hotwife if you and your male partner want to get involved in the lifestyle, marriage isn’t essential!
As well as fulfilling the sexual fantasy of watching their hotwife playing with other men, enjoying this lifestyle together usually leads to a more fun, fulfilling and stimulating sex life for the couple too. Sounds like a win win!
For a lot of women, their journey into becoming a hotwife starts by roleplaying with their partner. Within the safety and security of a healthy relationship, roleplaying is a great way to slowly push the vanilla boundaries and explore new experiences for you both – including the fantasy of introducing a new partner. In most cases, it’s going to be the wife taking the lead and making this a reality.
Being a hotwife is incredibly empowering for the woman. You’re in charge, whatever you say goes – and nothing happens without your full consent and the respect of your desires. Sounds like a good way to play, right?
Is it for me?
The thought of being a hotwife might be a little intimidating at first. So many thoughts and questions to juggle with. Why does my man want me to have sex with someone else? What does he get out of it? Does he want to have sex with other women? What if I say no? What if I try it and don’t enjoy it? Will we still have sex just the two of us? Does it mean I don’t turn him on enough?
In any relationship, open, honest and clear communication is an absolute must – and it’s even more important if you’re going to be exploring new sexual fantasies together. Whilst having boundaries and rules about your lifestyle might sound like it’ll take the fun away; you’re only limited by your imagination and what you’re both up for.
What is important is that as the hotwife, you feel comfortable with what you’re doing and under no pressure to ‘perform’. At no point should you ever feel that you have to be a hotwife to keep someone else happy, if it’s not working for you, you need to make a change.
Finding someone to play with
When you do decide to take the first step into your hotwife fantasy, you’ll need to find a willing partner to add to your fantasy. For some couples part of the fun is watching the hotwife go out and flirt with a stranger to bring them home, for others seeking a suitable partner online is the way to go.
However you choose to play, have fun and play safe.
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